Beautiful Russian Internet Wife!

Russian Mail Order Brides Do NOT Exist! By Elena Petrova

My site Russian Brides Cyber Guide is at the top of many search engines for the term "Russian brides", and as a result I often receive requests for interviews about a Russian internet wife from newspapers and magazines all over the world, like the USA, Great Britain, Ireland, Spain, Germany, Finland, Hungary, Australia, South Africa, Russia - and the list goes on.

And I see a worrying trend - often a reporter already knows what kind of story he or she is going to write, before they even start their interviews.

A Russian internet wife is routinely portrayed by the Media as the "mail order brides" process. Those words tend to leave a nasty taste in your mouth, don't they?

The first time I heard those words were soon after my marriage when "Cosmo" happened to interview me, quite by chance. I was sitting at home, bored and decided to send a letter to a competition that the magazine was launching.

"Cosmo" was looking for somebody to feature in their article about a Russian internet wife. My letter was like a God send, and they phoned me asking for an interview.

This was my first interview with the Media, and I was pretty naive at the time. I thought that "Cosmo", like all our friends and family, would find the way we met "very romantic". Imagine my surprise when I read the announcement of the future article: "South Africa's Mail Order Brides"! Honestly, I was shocked and humiliated. I had no idea that was the official name of the process!

The actual article had the heading "South Africa's Mail Order Romances" which sounded a bit better, and the article itself finished with the words "Welcome!" and "Good luck!" addressed to all us Russian women. All in all, the article was quite all right.

The history behind the term "mail order brides" goes as far back as the time of the first American settlers. The settlers, most of whom were men, could not find suitable women to marry and had to write letters to Europe asking women to become their wives. In those days, arranged marriages were common, and marrying somebody you barely knew was nothing out of the ordinary. Back then, the women truly were "mail order brides".

Today the term "mail order brides" is currently used to label the relationship between a man from a first world country and a woman from the third world country or the countries of the former USSR.

The common misconception is that a Russian internet wife only wants a way out of her misery and terrible economic situation. Being incompetent in Filipino, Thailand, Colombian, Mexican and other mail order brides, I can tell you with confidence that this is NOT the case with Russian women seeking husbands abroad.

A Russian internet wife has a much better education than the brides from Asia and Latin America. About 90% of the women that apply to our agency have college or university degrees, or are current college or university students.

With their fair complexion, their intelligence and their astounding beauty, men have often asked me if our selection is real! Our women appear too beautiful to be seeking husbands on the Internet.

Being intelligent and educated, a Russian internet wife is still feminine, warm and gentle. Competing with men is the last thing they seek in their family lives.

The Russian ideal of a man is one with whom she feels like she is "behind the stone wall", the leader, the provider and the protector. Believe it or not, the reason for all these beautiful Russian women seeking their destiny over the Internet is that they cannot find their ideal man in Russia. It is that simple - even if it sounds unbelievable.

Most Russian women seeking husbands abroad are NOT focused on finding a "foreign husband" but more importantly on finding "The Husband".

We often receive requests from a Russian internet wife featured in our catalogs to remove her profile, because she has married a Russian man living in Russia. This is a clear evidence that most Russian women seeking contacts with foreign men are not fixed on moving abroad but on finding a serious relationship and getting married.

For many of them, finding a husband in her home country would be preferable to moving abroad, and sometimes we even receive requests from women if she can find a man who will move in with her in Russia.

In Russia, women outnumber men. there are 10 million more women than men, according to the latest census! In most situations it is a question of luck if a Russian woman manages to find herself a man or not.

Russians marry early, and at the age of 25 most people are already married. If a man is not married, it can only mean he is not willing to commit - even bad men can find themselves a wife! Women must act fast if they want to get married and to ensure that they have a husband, one can only hope he will be a good man.

There were even talks about changing the family legislation so that it would allow men to have multiply wives so that there would be competition among men too. This is not a joke! This question was discussed in Russian parliament.

Now, what is the general idea about Russian "mail order brides"?

Most men thinking about "mail order brides" services are not even aware that they will not receive their Russian internet wife delivered to their postal box, or their door, on their request and will have to spend time, money and effort to convince a "bride" that he is a worthy candidate for her to consider.

Yes, the first contact happens usually by mail, air or electronic, but this is the case with using any Internet personals, isn't it?

The interpretation the media gives to the term "Mail order brides" is that a Russian mail order bride will marry any man, of any age, just to get out of Russia.

The Russian internet wife service is interpreted by most people as a service that "sells women", a service that is neither respectable nor trustworthy. Some men still believe they can point their finger at any woman and she must marry him because he paid for her address.

This "mail order brides" idea is an insult to any decent Russian woman.

C'mon, guys! Those women do not think you are doing them a favor by writing to them. They feel as if you were one of the guys who would approach her at a bar, where she can say, "yes" if she likes you, and "thanks, but no, thanks" if she doesn't.

She does not owe you anything just because you selected her from the thousands of other applicants or paid 10 bucks for her contact details. If you dare to be arrogant or offensive in your letter, you are out.

She knows your music and movies as well as you know them, and is also SEEKING HER SOUL MATE so remember that! Do not jeopardize your chances with your future Russian internet wife by letting yourself believe in the "mail order brides" nonsense.

Copyright 2004 Elena Petrova

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Elena Petrova is the creator of Russian Brides Cyber Guide an informational source about Russia and Russian women. She holds master's degree in philosophy and authored several highly successful books about Internet dating.

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