FAQ About Girls!

FAQ About Girls!: This week we have a 2-part question, so I'm including the whole follow-up of exchanges for our loyal "Pickups Arts" readers.

QUESTION

hi there ,

well i am quite good at dating and just got better with your video but your ideas are not working in this particular case i am going to tell . Hence i mailed you so that i can get a direct review . Well there is this girl in my work place , who is quite shy , i did a mistake (i think) of telling her my sad stories before i got your dvd , well i did get her number and she messages me everyday , but never calls back why??? and also i asked her out twice, once before i got your dvd (in a rather dumb way) and second time after i got your dvd (smart way) but nothing worked !! i have not proposed her yet.....but i have an instinct she likes me but if it burns out i have to face her everyday at work you know you keep getting worse seeing her everyday na?? well i would like to get your opinion on this....and how to approach a women if she is in a group of her female friends...m confused with this part !!

Thanks for your time

S M

 ANSWER

Hi S M,

You don't want to ask girls out, you want to build attraction and then create an opportunity for them to be with you.

OK so I'm going to guess you've heard this enough times and you "got it" and are starting to handling things better for yourself but this one particular girl has you confused.

First of all, you knew her before learning from us and tried different things with her after, but ultimately it sounds like you still fumbled initially. That was your first impression and it does sort of stick and you end up working against it.

Second of all, although it may seem like a convenient thing, it really isn't best to pick up girls from work, although if you meet them through natural social settings or through introductions that's different.

Thirdly, you answer your own question about the way she's acting. You say she's shy. She messages you a lot but never returns your calls. Of course... because SHE's SHY. Messaging on her phone is safe, calling you probably makes her nervous.

Finally, you can officially stop thinking you need to ask her permission to move forward. This is the kind of girl you will probably need to lead by the hand (not literally but figuratively). She is not going to take charge, so you will have to.

As far as approaching girls when they're in a group, that's a pretty vague question. What environment? How big is the group? Do you know any in the group? Etc etc. Without any other information, the only advice I can possibly give is to just simply approach and see what happens. You can learn a lot just from doing this a few times. If you want a specific answer then you'll have to ask a more specific question about it.

I hope this was clear for you,

Jay Valens