Immigration Scams 

Any - and I mean it! - ANY MAN will face the question of immigration scams,

who even remotely considers the idea of marrying a Russian woman.

By facing this question, I mean worrying about the possibility that a immigrant woman will marry him with the only purpose of gaining residence to his country, and will divorce him soon after the marriage.

How grounded is this worry? General opinion is that the danger of immigration scams is high in marriages with foreign women.

Try to share the idea of finding a marriage partner abroad with your family and friends, and everyone will think you are nuts and are setting yourself up to become an immigration scam by a cunning Russian girl.

Is it true that there are many Russian women that will marry a man only for the purpose of immigration? Why does such an opinion persist among the general public? How common are immigration scams in marriages with Russian women?

First of all, let's find out where do we get all those ideas about scams in marriages with foreign women? Did you have any friends, family members or colleagues that married Russian women and fell victims of immigration scams? Most likely, NO!

So your ideas about high probability of immigration scams in marriages with foreign women are, most often, based on what you have read, heard or seen in the Media - and of course you know what makes the news and what does not. When was the last time you have seen a "happily ever after" fairy tale on the front page of a newspaper?

Scandals, murders, and scams make the news. Happy marriages don't. In the USA alone it's about four to six thousand men that marry foreign women every year. How many scandal stories you hear for the same period of time?

Apparently, if immigration scams in marriages with foreign women were indeed such a problem, you would have heard horror stories much more often, and, eventually, your government would do something about it.

Russian women that seek somebody abroad with the only purpose to use marriage as the means to immigrate to the USA, or any other country, in fact, are NOT many.

It is only women who are absolutely desperate that would contemplate such a marriage, and those women are seldom objects of desire for any man.

A woman that is desired by a foreign man is usually a woman who can exercise some choice among her suitors, and she would rather select a mate who is suitable for her than just marry anybody: Once she is in a foreign country, and divorced from her husband, what will she do?

Live a lonely life of an immigrant, a person of "second sort", struggling to make ends meet, without any connections, family and friends, having to look for a new love partner. Does that look brighter to you than having a loving happy marriage and stable life? Of course not!

Apparently, finding a suitable mate will take much less time for a woman in Russia than the process of going through marriage to an unsuitable mate, following immigration and divorce, and settling in her new single life. Do you think Russian women are all crazy masochists?

Any reasonable human being would prefer to receive "the full package" including love and stability, without the need to go through unnecessary pain and change.

It is simply unrealistic to think many Russian women would prefer to contemplate immigration scams, i.e. marrying a man with the only purpose of immigration and subsequent divorce, rather than marrying for love and receiving "the full package". All human beings are made in the same way. We all want to be happy and do not want to suffer. Russian women are no different.

So the cases of real immigration scams should be rare among Russian women marrying foreign men, I mean the cases where women initially intended to divorce their husbands after the immigration, before even being married to them.

Try to picture yourself in a relationship with somebody you don't like, and spending 1-2-3 years of your life in such a situation. Would you willingly select such a fate, when you could be involved with somebody you really like and receive the same benefits?

This is why I say that it is only desperate people who would decide on immigration scams, people who cannot exercise any choice. And the reason why she does not have any choice is because no one wants her.

So, by selecting an attractive woman to start a relationship with and competing for their attention with other suitors, men in a great extent secure themselves against desperate persons.

Therefore, the explicit type of immigration scams where a person starts a relationship with somebody only to gain permanent residence to a western country is not that common in marriages with Russian women.

But if people do not know each other well enough, problems in a marriage can occur, and in such a case men often feel they were just "used" for the purpose of immigration. The initial intent of a woman was not an immigration scam but if the couple do not stay together for long, a man may decide he was "scammed".

For example, if a man marries a local woman and their marriage doesn't work out, and they discover their interests or pace of life are incompatible, and divorce soon, the man would not think he was "scammed", just because a woman would not gain anything from such a marriage, rather lost, just like him.

But if such a thing happens in a marriage of a local man and a foreign woman, the woman appears to have gained something she did not have before the marriage - namely, the residence to a western country, which is perceived as very desirable for foreigners - and therefore a man can conclude he fell a victim of one of those immigration scams.

It is the belief that life in Russia is a complete misery and there is nothing for women to lose when they immigrate, that drives people to think that a Russian woman would go to any lengths just to gain residence into countries of Northern America, Australia or Western Europe.

Copyright 2004 Elena Petrova

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Elena Petrova is the creator of Russian Brides Cyber Guide an informational source about Russia and Russian women. She holds master's degree in philosophy and authored several highly successful books about Internet dating.

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