Building up Your Skills to be able to Meet and Attract Women!

Building up your skills to be able to meet and attract women on your own should still be a focal point of your self-improvement.

This is not an outright replacement for building up your social skills.

Think of it like diversifying your strategies and options. Each strategy builds upon and supports the other.

Now that I've talked about how good of a strategy this is, let me share suggestions with you on HOW to go about this...

- When you approach new women, don't ONLY approach them with sexual or romantic interests, allow yourself the option to befriend them.

- Rather than trying to set up 1:1 dates, invite them to parties and treat them as friends.

- Focus on befriending women who share similar interests as you, as they will have a better time hanging out with you and less pressure on you to do any more than be cool and feel like yourself. - When you are spending time with girls only as friends, it gives you a chance to learn more about women in general, not just how to bed them but how to really get along with them and understand them better. This, in turn, helps encourage those female friends to introduce you to other women and help you hook up.

- If you originally pursue a girl with an interest to sleep with her, don't try to change that to being friends, even if it's her idea, because it will probably be difficult and frustrate you. Focus on befriending from the start and for the girls you pursue sexually that you don't get - just let them go and simply contact them occasionally to see what's up - maybe they'll be available in the future, you never know.

- Remember that even as friends, women will still act like women and you can't let them walk over you or try to take advantage of you. Just picture them as a guy friend and ask yourself whether you would tolerate that from a guy friend.

- Don't be "girly" around girl friends, let them do their girl stuff with their girlfriends. You're their GUY friend so for sure it is OK to be a guy around them. Just don't be a gross piggish guy, be a cool fun-loving positive guy. And don't expect them to be guy-like, any more than they'd expect you to be girl-like.

- Try not to go overboard and collect 1,000 girl friends. Focus on being friends with a few quality girls as friends and add more only as you are able to find the time. If you can easily manage more, go ahead, but don't go overboard initially.

There you go - yet another strategy from our lab geared for your success.

Friends forever,

Jay Valens  

Building up your skills to be able to meet and attract women on your own! Building up your skills to be able to meet and attract women on your own Building up your skills to be able to meet and attract women on your own Building up your skills to be able to meet and attract women on your own.