Searching For a Compatible Marriage Partner Online?

This perception is nothing but a myth.

This is mainly caused by demographic discrepancies. According to the latest census, there are 10 million more women than men in Russia.

Russian people do not consider their life miserable, and most of them would not contemplate immigration by any means, even the people who are well traveled and perfectly aware of the differences in the life style between Russia and the west.

Talking about immigration scams, in reality, it is nearly impossible to fake attraction to a mate that will be convincing enough for a possible husband to proceed with marriage.

There are very clear indications if the person is or is not attracted to a compatible marriage partner, such as, sexually (in the case where a woman fakes attraction, she prefers to have as little sexual communication as possible), personal acceptance (if a woman fakes attraction, she is often irritated with minor things), and body language (if a woman fakes attraction, she tries to "close" herself to the man, by crossing her hands and legs when the two are together, making herself "inaccessible" for him, moving back when he moves towards her, etc).

Such cues in a woman's behavior can seldom go unnoticed by a man, even if on the subconscious level, he will have the feeling that "something's not right", and will usually back away from a marriage due to lack of a compatible marriage partner.

What happens in reality most often is that when two people who do not know each other well decide to marry, they might, at a later stage, discover some personal incompatibilities, such as hygienic or sexual incompatibilities, which can be the most repulsive.

Less stressful, but nevertheless important in a marriage, differences in educational or cultural level, pace of life, circle of social interaction, etc., would not make a compatible marriage partner.

For example, take the woman who lived all her life in a large city and was attending theatrical or musical performances on a weekly to monthly basis. Now her husband lives in a small town and never attends live performances.

This can be significant enough to feel inadequate in a marriage, if these cultural activities were important for her, then they would see that they are not a compatible marriage partner.

Therefore, it is extremely important to know each other's daily routine, background and interests in great detail before deciding on marriage then they would not be a would not make a compatible marriage partner for each other.

Other important things will be the person's reactions in critical situations.

For example, one person is used to solving problems through an immediate discussion in raised voices, and the other is used to backing up if a problem arises and removing himself from the situation altogether.

With the time, such differences in behavior are likely to cause repulsive feelings in both, unless the couple discuss their way of handling problems and find a mutually acceptable way of solving the problems. My opinion is that this highly unlikely.

People seldom realize their differences on the behavioral level. The other person may have a different set of behavioral patterns, but our own behavioral patterns seem "natural" to us.

Therefore we cannot even imagine they may be "unnatural" for somebody else and could rule out them being a would not make a compatible marriage partner for the other.

When people are dating locally and looking for a would not make a compatible marriage partner, such incompatibilities are checked in a natural way, and couples that do not have compatible behavioral patterns seldom get to the stage of marriage decisions.

In the long distance dating, couples prefer to concentrate on their common points and overlook their differences, or possible differences, and the couple could be forced into a marriage decision before they are actually ready to approach such a decision.

The only remedy to a potential immigration scams situation is to take the time and effort to really get to know the person you are intending to marry.

What is especially important for men to be a compatible marriage partner, they should disclose as much personal information as possible to a potential partner, since it will be the woman who moves to an unknown country and needs to adjust to the new life style.

Daily routine, earnings and expenses, entertainment, hobbies, health problems, desire for children and how soon such a desire can be fulfilled, should be discussed in detail to discover whether or not they are a compatible marriage partner.

If those aspects were not discussed in advance, there is a great risk for a marriage to survive, should significant incompatibilities be discovered later in a marriage.

Copyright 2004 Elena Petrova ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Elena Petrova is the creator of Russian Brides Cyber Guide an informational source about Russia and Russian women. She holds master's degree in philosophy and authored several highly successful books about Internet dating.